We often hear about “follow your dreams.” What if we do not know what our dreams are? How does one aspire to a dream if they are unclear on what it may be? There are answers for this!
When we are unsure of what our dream may be, we are in the seeds development called the “Guess-Stational Phase.” We must be fiercely honest about our past. We look at our families of origin, our mistakes, and failures, and we seek the golden thread that weaves itself into what is becoming one thing, our dreams.
Our highest aspirations bring a surprise for us. They require that as we search for, find, and follow our highest aspirations we must lift up our lowest expectations!
We do this by an honest inventory of our assets, competencies, and capabilities! This guides us as to the baby steps we can start with, and other steps that require us to get equipped with additional skills or communities as we are developing our vision for the future dreams we will come to hold close to our hearts.
If all goes well, anxieties turn into excitement for exploring and for the adventure, and we say “yes” to the dream. Our dreams must be bigger than the fears we have carried in the past, carry now in the present, or hold about the future.
Remember this my friend, passion wins out over dread! Go for it!
The mystical thing about dreams is that they always begin by their absence! We know when we are dreamless, rudderless, or lost. But as you begin the Gestational Phase, you are exploring! This is when audacity becomes autobiographical!
Rachael Carson said: “Beginnings are apt to be shadowy, and so it is with the great mother of life, the sea.” Within the womb of exploring and the Guess-stational Phase, great things are often found to emerge from the depths of who we are!
Do not be afraid. It has been this way since the beginning of time! It will come to us!
Give your dream the gestational time it needs. For some of us this time goes by quickly, and for some of us it takes years. Don’t worry: your dream will let you know when it is ready to be born.
We acknowledge at some point in time, whether alone or in the presence of others, that we must let it all go. For after all, it is the dreams responsibility for where it goes now. Not mine. My job at the end is to surrender it all. Regardless, we stay tuned. We do the Baby-steps when called for. We nourish the dream. But we know we do not possess sit. It possesses us!